What some refer to as "brutal honesty" is frequently difficult for the one receiving advise and can be alienating for the person offering it. Though some individuals believe that anything else than harsh honesty is a lie, being honest without harming others is possible. It is not lying to soften your remarks in order to protect the feelings of someone you care about. While it may be easier to tell someone who is hurting that they're too sensitive or should get over it, it's not actually being honest.
People need to feel important; they need to know that they matter. Therefore, it can be useful to lie to someone who is hurting to make them feel better. For example, if someone has hurt your feelings by saying something mean, you could lie and say that it didn't bother you at all. This would be a form of lieing to make them feel important and show that you care about them even though they've done something wrong. Although this might seem like a good idea at first, it isn't actually being honest with yourself or them.
It is best to be completely honest with others, especially those you care about. This includes friends, family, and people you work with. Sincere apologies are also acceptable after telling lies about anything. For example, if you told someone that you liked their dress when really you thought it was ugly, an apology is in order. Even if you did it out of kindness, it's still inappropriate to lie about your opinions.
If you lie to save someone's feelings or avoid confrontation, either the truth will come out or you will have to live with the consequences of being dishonest. If you reveal the truth from the start, you will just be dealing with the truth's pain. It is best to be honest and open with others.
Honesty is important in a relationship. Without honesty there can be no trust, and without trust, there can be no love. Avoid lying about anything important. Even if what you are saying is not true, it can feel good to tell someone they look nice even when you really think they look like garbage. This behavior of telling people what they want to hear is called flattery and it is used by some people who want to get something out of you. For example, a person may tell a small lie to avoid hurting another person's feelings. Or they might use flattery to get what they want: a date, attention, something to eat, etc.
The most important thing is that you are honest with yourself as well. Don't just tell other people what they want to hear because it makes them feel good about themselves. Be real with yourself and only tell the truth.
It is also important not to take things too seriously. Have fun with friends and family, but don't stress out about little lies here and there.
Lying is unethical. Even if you lie to avoid hurting someone's feelings, seeming gentler, or avoiding shame, it's the wrong thing to do. Liars claim that lying bothers them and makes them feel less close to the people they lie to. This means that even if you do something wrong to avoid hurting someone's feelings, you've still done something wrong.
People sometimes tell lies to protect others' feelings. For example, if you ask someone not to call you at a certain time and she tells you that she won't, then you hurt her feelings by taking away her right to make her own decisions. In this case, it's correct to lie so that you don't hurt her feelings.
Some people say that they want to protect their friends' feelings when they know that what they're about to say will cause pain. For example, if your friend tells you that he or she doesn't like green vegetables and you know that he or she really does, then it's okay to tell a small white lie and say that he or she does like them just this once. In this case, it's correct to lie to protect his or her feelings.
In conclusion, it's acceptable to lie to protect others' feelings as long as you don't take away their right to decide for themselves. Only they can decide how they want to react if they find out that you lied to them.