However, the greatest way to forgive a liar is just to let them go. Letting go will hurt for a while, but don't be scared to go on with your head held high. You may put the falsehoods behind you and live your best life after you recognize that there is no way to undo the past.
If you're sincerely sorry, beg for forgiveness and explain why you believe you lied—you didn't want punishment, you didn't want to harm them, you didn't want to do anything, and so on. You can ask for forgiveness, but there's no assurance you'll get it. Inquiring is the proper course of action. If they don't forgive you, that's okay.
You are under no responsibility to forgive someone who lies and is unrepentant about it. Even if the liar apologizes, you are not required to forgive. In general, it is a nice idea, but the option is yours. Forgiveness does not come automatically just because the other person apologizes. It's up to you whether or not you will forgive them.
Lying is a very serious matter that can have far-reaching consequences. Because of this, it's important to understand that there are some things that cannot be changed even with an apology. For example, the fact that you caught your friend lying means that there is something seriously wrong with his/her character. No amount of groveling or begging will change this fact. Also, knowing that your friend has lied to hurt you makes it difficult for him/her to be trusted again.
It's natural to want to forgive those who have wronged us. However, the only person responsible for their actions is the person themselves. If you feel like forgiving them, then do so, but only after thinking through all the implications. Otherwise, you could end up being used again.
Whether or not you decide to continue the relationship, forgiveness is vital to you.
You are not required to act as though the deception never occurred. Repeated lying (or other disrespectful activities) are something you can and should keep an eye on and become less forgiving about. While you have the right to recall past wrongs, real forgiveness includes not bringing up what you said you forgave again and over again.
A person cannot always apologize for lying. It is possible to forgive without having a dialogue or making an apology, but this is frequently more difficult since you may have to go through this process without the other person. Working with a counselor, religious leader, or psychologist may be beneficial. Forgiveness is an important part of healing from the lies we tell ourselves and others.
Forgiveness begins with identifying and claiming what has occurred. Whether it was a guy or a friend that injured you, begin by acknowledging the incident for what it is and expressing the emotions you are experiencing. It's more than just saying, "I was lied to." Your trust has been deceived, and your confidence in friendships or love has been shattered. You take a new look at the individual. Was he/she honest with you before? Did they keep secrets from you? If so, how could you possibly continue to trust them? As you think through these questions, you are coming to understand why you were betrayed and what role you may have played in allowing it to happen.
Next, decide what action you will take against the person who hurt you. Is forgiveness even possible? Can you simply let the matter go? Or should you try to get back what was taken from you? The answer to these questions depends on many factors, such as how much the person responsible has apologized to you and demonstrated genuine remorse. If they did deceive you and there is no hope of repairing the damage, then perhaps forgiveness is not necessary. However, if there is any chance that the person will change their behavior and live up to your expectations, then forgiveness becomes an important part of healing the injury done to you.
Finally, forgive yourself for being vulnerable to being lied to. Everyone makes mistakes and misjudges situations sometimes. We are all human after all. When we discover that someone we trusted wasn't being honest with us, it can leave us feeling confused and betrayed.
How to Forgive Without Apologizing
Copyright © 2020 - 2023 Authors Cast Inc.
