Leaving a note is a good beginning step, but it should not be your last. The purpose of leaving a non-anonymous note is to address the issue peacefully—together. If you leave them a letter or a message, ask if they have time to talk about the problem. "That way, you set up time to chat," Swann explains. "You don't just walk away from an issue this big."
If talking doesn't work out, then you and your neighbor need to come up with a solution that will keep everyone happy and safe. It may mean new neighbors if that's what it takes to get along. But at least you've tried to resolve things without violence.
Finally, if all else fails, call the police. Let them know there's been an incident between you and your neighbor. Give them their full name and number if you can remember it (even if you don't think it's important). Tell them where you live too. If you don't want to involve law enforcement, then stay on the safe side by keeping your distance until you can talk things over like adults.
In conclusion, leaving a note is a good first step toward resolving a conflict with your neighbor. Even if you don't feel like talking, at least you've given it a try. Hopefully, they'll do the same for you.
Even if you don't plan to be, notes might come out as passive-aggressive. And there is no real-time follow-up. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your neighbor and must write a message, keep it brief and uncomplicated. Include the main point in your message and look up an address for where they live. This will help you stay on topic and not ramble.
The best time to write a note is immediately after seeing something out of place or disturbing. For example, if someone's car is in your driveway but they're not home, a note letting them know their car is still there would be appropriate. If there's some debris by their door step but they seem to be away on vacation, then a note letting them know that their yard looks nice could be appreciated later. You should never leave a note if you feel like it could be taken the wrong way, however. For example, if you see someone's window is broken and they seem upset, it wouldn't be appropriate to leave a note saying how sorry you are about what happened because maybe they weren't at fault after all.
It's also acceptable to write a note if you want to get back at someone for some reason. For example, if someone broke into your house and took something valuable, then they could be avoided in future by writing them a letter telling them so.
When entering or leaving a classroom, you should be able to conveniently drop a message on their desk. You may even slip the message inside their locker while passing by. You should avoid placing amorous notes on a colleague's desk if you are not a student. This could cause serious problems if your colleague does not treat their job seriously enough to keep personal matters away from school grounds.
In conclusion, there are many ways you can leave a romantic note. The most effective way is definitely writing a love letter because it shows that you take time out of your day to express how you feel about them.
The key to a good message is to make the recipient feel as though you are truly thinking about them. A good letter tunes into the recipient and displays a personal connection. (This is especially difficult if you're writing to someone you don't know well.) A good note does the same thing but in a more informal setting. It makes the writer seem like they really care about the other person, which is why many major decisions are made in the first few notes of a friendship or relationship.
Here are some basic rules for writing effective notes:
- Notes should be written on only one side of the paper. If you write on both sides, it will not be clear what you want to say until you read the note over.
- Keep your note short and simple. Don't go into great detail about things that may not concern the recipient at all. He or she is probably going to get tired of reading long letters!
- Use proper grammar and spelling. Even if you think that your friend or family member knows how to write, let them proofread before you send them your note.
- Send your note by hand rather than through email. This shows that you take the time to write them out instead of sending an auto-response message from your phone.